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I’m sorry there hasn’t been much activity in the past weeks; this our exam block so we’re all pretty wrapped up in that. A few of the contributors have pieces in the work though, so we’ll definitely have some new things up in a week or so. Thanks for your patience everybody, love you. <3 

11:26
"I seldom raised my voice in protest [while my friends sexually harassed women] because I didn’t want to be uncool, to be perceived as ‘less of a man’ or challenged on why I found it necessary to defend women. This is what sociologist Michael Kimmel identifies as a deep form of homophobia: the fear that other men would challenge me, question my manhood, or even call me gay. This very fear led me to silently harass women and allow the others to vocally harass. I now realize that my worries of being pushed out my peer group could be tied to multiple forms of violence against women - when we create conditions where young men are constantly fighting other men to prove their manhood, what they will do to get props or accepted can escalate to dangerous levels. Ending gender-based violence is not about telling our sisters and daughters how to protect themselves, it should be about talking to our boys and men about we say to each other, what we allow to be said, and why we don’t stop when someone is being put in harm’s way."
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(Source: msandrogynous, via stfuhypocrisy)
THINGS I LOVE ABOUT THE SISTERHOOD: 1, the girls who write for it are all amazingly talented. I've been moved to tears by some of the pieces. 2. Super interesting articles get posted, I feel like I'm getting so educated simply by following you. 3. I love the varying ages of the contributor's. When I saw that you had someone as young as 16 writing for you I was a little sceptical but you have ALL proved to be strong, BEAUTIFUL young ladies. 4. it's fresh and young and thank you all so much!!! asked by Anonymous

I want to bake you cookies, run a hot bath for you and share my m&ms with you. I don’t even know what to say except I love you so much!!
19:53
I think I already tell you this, but this blog is so amazing I can't find the right word to describe it. It's such a good place for every girl in the planet to share whatever they want, and to learn about life, and to be confident. I'm so happy I've found this blog. Keep doing what you're doing. (sorry for my english, it's not that good) asked by miridical

Mow I love you so much, thank you thank you thank you!!
15:56

whoneedsfeminism:

I need feminism because there are too many men who react with anger and behave as though they are being personally victimised when women express that they somtimes feel unsafe around some men, or feel frustrated that some men expect sex in return for kindness or free drinks.  Everyone knows that ‘not every man is like that’, but personal experience and society as a whole force us to be cautious, and their unjust anger over this fact simply makes many of us feel even more unsafe. 

I need feminism because there are far too many people (of any gender) who, rather than even considering trying to understand why we feel the way we do, respond to our caution and frustration with aggression and insults to our intelligence.  More often than not, these are people who have never been and never will be in the kinds of situations that have given us personal reason to feel they way we do. 

I don’t doubt that you - general you - are a fantastic guy who wouldn’t expect me to put out because you bought me dinner, but you don’t negate the countless other men who came before you who felt disturbingly entitled to my body and my friends’ bodies in one circumstance or another, and you and your winning personality don’t make my caution and frustration over this invalid.

I need feminism because I am made to feel objectified, unsafe and uncomfortable, often on a daily basis and all because of my gender, and I am still accused of being stupid, presumptious and a man-hater when I voice and explain my discomfort.

14:50
To the anon who asked about emotions that come creeping back…

i had a similar experience running into my rapist a few times many years after i thought i was over and done with it. The first two or three times i would get immediately scared first, then very angry, and i would freeze or get anxiety attacks. But i would calm myself down thinking i was older, wiser, stronger and that everything was in the past and couldn’t hurt me, and neither could he. He noticed how i had changed, and how i had become even physically stronger, and that i was not the shy, weak teenager he had known and he could easily subdue in any way. That gave me a lot of confidence which he noticed, and eventually caused him to back away on his own. The last time i saw him about 6 years ago, we were walking towards each other to a bus stop; we saw each other about 30 ft from each other, and i stood there, facing him, staring at him, probably with no emotion in my face, then he took a step back, crossed the street and walked away. Last January i got the news he had passed away. That’s when i realized that i was incredibly relieved, that fear had never left me completely but i had learned to live with it and not give into it, but i guess that’s how it is.

I have no advice, i only know that building up my confidence helped me, as well as my physical strength (he wasn’t very tall but he was incredibly strong) talking about it a lot, writing about it, and getting it out of my system to take away the power he had over me. I used to do a lot of exercises in which i imagined myself yelling at him, confronting him, even punching him, overpowering him. Ultimately it all kinda wore off with time and i had moved on.

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14:25
I have way too much to say and not enough characters to say them in an ask. ): so if the anon asking about help with trauma wants to send me an ask; i have more than a few suggestions that help me. If they want to stay anon, that's fine. if they want me to have a conversation with them, let them know that I won't tell anyone who they are or post anything they say. asked by hitwizard
14:24
To that Anon, if you'd like to drop me a message off-Anon (I promise I won't disclose your identity to anybody) I'll share some of my own experiences with how to move past this sort of experience. Only if you wish, but I'm always open to talk about this issue with you. Stay strong, much love x asked by gopilev
14:24
As a child I was sexually abused by a neighbor and I've had months of therapy to deal with the trauma. I finally felt like I was getting better & ended my therapy sessions. She knocked at my door a few days ago and the negativity came creeping back. I'm normally good at telling myself I'll cope. But I could really do with hearing from someone who is willing to speak out about how they deal with any emotions which come creeping back. If anyone is willing to help please post. Thank you in advance. asked by Anonymous

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. This is a situation I don’t have any experience in, so if anyone could offer advice that would be very helpful.
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